What a week I had last week! I tell you what! I wanted to give up on all my efforts and just turn my “Momma” card in. It was one struggle after another last week. It started out fun and exciting, deteriorated through the middle of the week and by the very end of it Momma had an outburst of frustration, I was over it. After much speculation and thought I came to the realization that I had way to many expectations of my kids, my husband and myself. I was trying to be “Perfect”! Obviously things did not go my way and the week fell apart striving for the perfection I so desired.
What was I working to be perfect at? Well we started a new family schedule last week. When I created the schedule I thought it would work so well and easily for our family. I figured a bit of structure would take little or no effort to implement into our lives. When I saw things were obviously not going according to plan I began demanding everyone get on board with me. I pushed my kids and myself to hard. I also took my frustrations out on my husband, NOT good. Thursday evening I realized some things in our schedule and a lot in my heart had to change. I sat down with my schedule and re-configured a few things to run more smoothly. Since then things have become SO much better! No stress, just free flowing movements.
Over the weekend my Mom sent my Hubs and I out on a date, THANKS Mom! We had a great chat. From our discussion I re-evaluated my heart, parenting habits and current events in our family. Mike and I talked about how things need to change agreed that we had created a few petty issues in our stress. Ever notice that when you are stressing a few things that would not typically bother you end up driving you crazy? Well we talked about those things and let them go. The time we had together was quality and well needed. I am so thankful we talked and re-connected. We both felt ready to take on the next day after our great date night!
Our “schedule” is now our routine, not ridged but just right. Today our routine did not start “on time” but it didn’t matter. It was not ridged, it was relaxed and flowed which is what my family craves. This morning when I woke up I remembered to love my children, lead my children not command and demand them. Life is far from perfect (which is GOOD), it feels comfortable, relaxed and enjoyable.
Today in the middle of making myself a chai latte I spilled some milk, ON my new routine. Last week I would have been frustrated. This week I let it remind me that “stuff” happens. I found it all to humorous that it spilled on the item that drove me crazy last week. What a PERFECT (in this case perfect is good) reminder that a little spilled milk is nothing to worry about. I looked at the milk and thought “really? did that just happen?” and then I was inspired to write this post! I simply wiped up the milk and went on making my fabulous chai latte, YUM! What a great example! Things will go wrong, we cannot avoid that! We must remember it is what we do when things go wrong that will lead us to success or failure. Remember good things DO come from the bad but YOU have to find them. Have a great Monday!