So steps 6-8 in HTCI were challenging for me. I want to just JUMP in and start purging and organizing RIGHT NOW! I told myself I was going to take this book seriously if not for me, for my readers to see that it is possible to stick to something. SO… I am not perfect and we all know, considering the title of this blog, that I do not profess to be. I have been reading the book faithfully and have not done everything exactly but it’s still benefiting me. The author of HTCI, Mindy Starns Clark, talks about not clipping coupons if it doesn’t work for you. Do you spend to much time clipping and organizing coupons to find yourself forgetting them at check out? You may then feel discouraged with a huge pile of coupons unused with more in a pile ready to be organized. If this sounds familiar then you need to forget coupons and let that stress go. Well, the same with going through this book. I can’t take the time to write down every thing I see and put pictures in my HTCI book but I did look at every picture and made notes on the book or in my head as to some things that need to change. Here are my notes from each chapter…
While looking through the pictures of my messy house I noticed we have WAY to many clothes, including outerwear like coats, mittens and hats. Clothes are everywhere, hanging, in baskets waiting to be folded, on the floor waiting to make it to the dirty hamper, filling up closets, folded waiting to make it to a drawer, closet or hanger. We also have to many shoes, shoes are everywhere! We also have what she calls “barnacling” where it seems that every horizontal surface has stuff on it. Mostly papers, clothing, or small things that need to find their way home.
Why do we have so many clothes? That is MY issue. I have three girls and I try to keep them as cute as possible. I have it somewhere in my head that if they are not all pretty and primped, dressed cute and stylish that I am a bad mother. WOAH!!!! Am I REALLY a bad mom for not having the cutest dressed kids on the block?! Doesn’t that sound ridiculous? My kids are happy, fed, healthy and have clothing. I can let go of the fact that they have to be dressed up. I am positive that a huge part of our budget has gone to making the kids look cute and this has got to stop. Not only is it hurting my budget it’s hurting my house, filling it with clothes. Not to mention what kind of subconscious issues am I placing on my kids to make them think that how they look is what’s important? It’s how they feel and who they are that is important. I am not saying that they can’t look cute from now on, I am just saying that I have spent to much time and money trying to make them look like cupcakes instead of letting them just be who they are. It’s okay if they have mismatched clothes, messy hair that they did themselves and shoes that wouldn’t necessarily go with the outfit they are wearing. If they dress themselves and feel good about their efforts that is what matters. I will be working through this issue for a while I am sure. Do you see how much deeper the mess can go then just the house. Mindy talks about this in the Step 7 and 8 of her book.
I am a “if I don’t see it I forget about it” person. I have missed paying bills, missed appointments, forgotten returns past their return dates, missed voting by mail, ect.. All because I forget about it once it’s in a file or bin. So I always have papers out and about because I am afraid I will forget them. I will be working through this issue in the coming weeks and year. She does talk about different ways to fight this problem. I will keep you tuned in to how I fix my issues.
The Next Step
So I have a few issues to deal with as I go along my HTCI journey. The next step is working on how to deal and face some of these issues, making sure you are ready to commit and working on a plan to start the system. I am very excited to concur the clutter. I am also excited because I have a feeling it will help me in two big areas of my life. I think I will start to see why I don’t need to spend money on making my life better. I will save money not buying stuff to fill a void and I will figure out what those voids are. I believe it’s not just a purging of the house, it is also a purging of the mind.
I have a deep issue with clothing and shoes, what is an area in your life that you have a deeper issue then just the surfaces you see?