For years I used the excuse that I didn’t have the money, time, or ability to take care of myself. I would feel guilty if I got a massage, manicure or leave the house for a girls night out.
On the outside I showed that I was okay with it, even as if I expected it. But really I was a ball of anxiety and guilt. How could I abandon my kids to take time for myself?
This is a subject that many women I have spoken with deal with. They want to take care of themselves yet the guilt of spending time or money on themselves is too strong.
In reality, you have to take care of yourself to properly take care of others.
If you are not properly nourished in all areas of your life then you are not being the best you.
Do you think that your fatigue, anxiety, anger, depression or other feelings like that are just because you are “busy”? Most likely the reason you feel this way is because you are not taking care of the one person who matters the most in your life. YOU.
It is also important to think about the example you are setting to your kids. Do you want them to grow up taking care of themselves? We see the message so often for kids on how important it is that they love who they are. Where do we lose sight of this as we become adults?
Here are three life changing ways to take care of yourself.
1. Take time to spiritually feed your soul.
In this blog post click here, I share how to get spiritually fed in five minutes a day. It doesn’t take a lot of time or energy. Remember if you give HIM time he will give YOU time! You will be blessed by spending just a few minutes with God daily.
2. Give yourself down time.
How do you get down time? I take baths, get a massage, go to Body Talk, exercise, read, take walks with my hubby, go to coffee with friends and get manicures or pedicures.
I used to use the excuse that I didn’t have enough time, no sitter was available or I didn’t have the money to do something like a massage. I realized that was truly just an excuse.
If you want something bad enough you will figure out a way to get it. One massage every four to six weeks is usually affordable for most people.
3. Take care of your health.
Try something new for your health. Try a naturopath, nutritionist, massage therapist, a fitness trainer, acupuncture, counselor, life coach, the possibilities are endless. These different therapies (not done all at the same time) have seriously changed my life. I made that decision for myself as a step to take care of me.
All of the things above have changed me for the better. I wouldn’t tell you to do something that I have not done. I do take care of myself. I put myself before any other human. I have to, otherwise I get lost in the days and lose my purpose.
At first you might feel funny when you take time for yourself. That’s normal. You’ll go through the whole cycle of happy, guilty, euphoric, anxiety and then calm. Ha, sounds kind of like Rapunzel from Tangled when she was finally out of the tower for the first time.
If you are not taking time for yourself then you are a caged animal who is learning to accept their situation instead of step outside of it and become who God wants you to be.
It’s time to stop being caged and start taking action to take care of yourself.
Taking care of you means you are able to take care of the loved ones in your life, feel fulfilled in your work and living out the purpose God has given you.
Okay it’s your turn! Tell me what you are going to schedule or do to take care of you this week? A bath, a massage, a new therapy, something else?